Bhagavad Gita · Chapter 13: The Field and the Knower of the Field
Bhagavad Gita 13.9
असक्तिरनभिष्वङ्गः पुत्रदारगृहादिषु ।
नित्यं च समचित्तत्वमिष्टानिष्टोपपत्तिषु ॥
asaktiranabhiṣvaṅgaḥ putradāragṛhādiṣu | nityaṃ ca samacittatvamiṣṭāniṣṭopapattiṣu ||
non-attachment, not clinging to children, spouse, home, and the like, and a mind that stays even whether wanted or unwanted things come;
Modern context
Not clinging to children, spouse and home. This line is easy to misread. It does not mean not loving them. It means loving them without possessing them, caring for them without making one's whole peace depend on how they turn out. Parents who cling often smother; parents who love freely let their children become themselves. The same is true of homes, careers and all the things we hold dear.